On February 3, 2015 Lifeline’s Lifeskills team went to Arellano University to have an empowerment seminar with 300 students about the topic “Reality and Challenges of College Life”. Candace Schmidt Gonzalez, one of Lifeline Foundation’s founding directors and a Life Coach for over 20 years, talked to the college students about the life-changing things that college bring. Her main message: college is a place where you learn to make choices. And it is your responsibility to make healthy choices based on informed decisions.
- “The most important thing: know that you deserve to reach your goal. But part of reaching your goal means first of all to have a goal.
- After knowing what your goal is, you have to learn how to successfully navigate through emotional stuff. Between you and your goal there are many distractions. These distractions can be financial needs, difficulties in your love life, conflicts in your family or many other things. The earlier you learn how to overcome these distractions, the earlier you will reach your goal.
- Be cool enough to be in hot pursuit of what is in store for you in your future! You think growing up is boring? No! You think growing up means to give up your dreams? No! Growing up means to face the reality, to find a way to reach your goal. Becoming an adult means to push yourself through to your goal.
There are 3 levels of going through college.
The first one is to show up for class. That’s it: just show up for class, but not being really interested in what you are doing there.
The second level is to really be present, having your mind, your eyes and your ears focused on the teacher, on the topic. Processing and absorbing the information.
And the third level is that you are one of the students who love what you are doing, who know for what you are going to college, who enjoy being in class.
The challenge is to love yourself enough to put your goals ahead of what is going to distract you. Remind yourself that you are going to make it! That you choose success! That you deserve to reach your goal!
So remind yourself to forgive yourself when you make a mistake, when you get distracted by something. Forgive yourself, begin again, repeat forever!”
Candace also asked the students: “Where do you see yourself in a few years? Where do you want to see yourself in a few years? And finally write down your own epitaph for your obituary. It is your decision what you write down. Have you been a good husband/a good wife? Have you been a loving mother/father? Or have you inspired other people? How did you serve your community? Have you changed lives? Decide for yourself what you want to have done in your life, how do you want people to keep you in mind?”